"Modern feminism" has no definitive definition. While some may use feminism to do those things you said, true feminists just want men and women to have the same rights.
Women are more likely to initiate all forms of domestic violence, especially child abuse. Despite this, women are given significant leverage over men in family courts. Women can destroy a male's attractiveness and future romantic prospects by saddling him with debt from child support and alimony.
Citation is definitely needed to support the claim that feminism "is a farce." Most of these topics only talk about how women have it better than men in the cases listed while not connecting them whatsoever to the first part.
Women are more vocal about their problems than men. This creats the impression that they're facing signifcantly more problems under the availability heuristic
There's no point in arguing who has "more rights" or who "has it harder" because it's not comparable. Men and women face different struggles and feminists want men and women to have all of the same rights.
A lot of people that call themselves "feminist" and write articles and blogs, aren’t feminist. Because the very misleading name, makes them believe feminist is about women, and not about sex equality. The good move would be to change the name, what a lot of true feminist did.
If you look at the whole world, without ignoring third world countries, feminism is needed. An example is Saudi Arabia where women are treated like second class citizens.
Despite having greater enrollment in college, a lower high school dropout rate, receiving less or no punishment for the same crime as men, and being less likely to be a victim of trauma or violence including rape, women still score lower than males on IQ tests on average.
A woman merely needs to be physically attractive to have her fair share of suitors. However, men are expected to be financially stable and sacrifice time and resources in courting.
Mother's day, weddings, engagements, and valentines day all revolve around the woman. Society places an expectation on men to please their women during those days.